Updated: Feb 20
Essential Oils and Sensuality by Tara Sanjeet Kaur // From The Hearth
Some Notes to Begin With:
1. Essential oils are most effectively utilized in smaller, consistent doses rather than larger single doses. You will see this concept outlined as you move through this article.
2. Essential oils add an extra layer of intentional energy to your sensual play, and support your physical, emotional, mental and spiritual wellbeing.
3. I strongly encourage you to use high quality essential oils. You are worthy of their high frequency!
a. I work exclusively with DoTERRA essential oils, which are thoroughly tested for their safety and purity, and have options which are safe for ingestion. If you have questions about DoTERRA, please let me know and also see the additional resources at the end of this post!
- Eases anxiety
- Promotes relaxation
- Releases fear of rejection associated with self expression
- Helps those who are hiding behind masks or who are holding onto false identities
- Supports those who are feeling unseen, unheard, unlovable and unworthy
Diffuse in the room where you will have the conversation with your partner
Apply lavender mixed with a carrier oil to your heart, throat and third eye (located between your brows) chakras. Massage it into the base of the skull.
Place one drop of lavender each in two glasses of water for you both as you come to chat about these categories of wellbeing. This can be a larger conversation (very helpful if you two haven’t connected on this in a while) or a quick check in prior to turning up the heat. When you each individually know where you are and where your partner is, it will lead to a more fulfilling time together because you can tend to each other’s needs in each moment. Communication is sexy!
Place one drop of lavender each in two glasses of water for you both as you come to chat about these categories of wellbeing. This can be a larger conversation (very helpful if you two haven’t connected on this in a while) or a quick check in prior to turning up the heat. When you each individually know where you are and where your partner is, it will lead to more fulfilling time together because you can tend to each other’s needs in each moment. Communication is sexy!
- Uplifts energy and emotions while calming the spirit
- Invigorates the senses
- Clears fears around scarcity and unworthiness
- Sparks the sacral chakra, moving stagnant or stuck sexual energy
If you already have lavender in your diffuser from your chat with your partner, add some wild orange to make it a blend.
Apply lavender mixed with a carrier oil to your heart, throat and third eye chakras. Apply wild orange mixed with a carrier oil to your sacral chakra (located just below your navel).
Get bubbly! Add one drop of wild orange to soda water for an uplifting beverage with texture. Be in the present moment as you drink it; feel the bubbles on your tongue and start tuning into interesting, non-sexual sensations and experiences.
For those who do not find anticipation triggering, I have an invitation for you on top of what is outlined above.
- Encourages playfulness, freedom and joy
- Associated with feelings of euphoria
- Helps to relieve depression
- Aids in balancing hormones, increasing libido
- Eases anxiety and elevates mood
- Lessens inhibitions and boosts sexual desire
Take a piece of paper and place one drop of Ylang Ylang or Clary Sage on it. The paper will be wet at first, but because essential oils are not fatty oils, as the oil evaporates it will leave no trace, except for the beautiful lingering scent of one of these two aphrodisiacs. Write a sweet and sexy note to your partner and leave it where they will find it, guiding them to take in both your written word and the sensory experience of the oil.
If you want to take the note a step further, leave your partner with instructions for how they can tease you throughout the day, and invite them to let you know how you can tease them. For example, beside the note you could leave a bottle of massage oil and instruct your partner to rub themself down with it and to send you a picture of their oily, sexy self.
- Recipe Suggestion: 1 part ylang ylang, 1 part wild orange, 1 part clary sage, diluted with carrier oil to your taste.
Personally, I love this blend and have it daily – regardless of potential steamy encounters – because it keeps me feeling cleansed and clean from the inside out. The spicy (puns are always intended!) bonus of this blend is that it contains ginger which has been traditionally used to spark arousal. Get your blood flowing, unlock suppressed sexual energy, activate your sacral chakra, and ignite your self-confidence. ZenGest is amazing in a smoothie for all my fellow smoothie lovers!
- Balances emotions
- Relaxes the mind
- Promotes clarity of thought
- Has a long history of use in Ceremony to guard against negative energies and influences.
If you are having a savoury meal, add a drop of oregano!
- Warms the body and stimulates blood flow and circulation
- Enhances libido
- Supports accepting and loving of the physical self
- Dispels fear of rejection and nurtures sexual energy
- Encourages honesty and vulnerability
If you are having a coffee or tea, add a drop of cinnamon!
- Supports the release of aspects that are not your Truth
- Supports you stepping into your power and purpose
- Helps release parts of the ego and mind which separate us from true soul connection
- Opens your channel during meditation and prayer while grounding you into your heart and intuition
Diffuse your lavender/wild orange blend, or change it up and diffuse frankincense. Once you feel grounded in the moment, I invite you to make a vow to yourself and to your body, and to say it out loud. Your vow may go something like this, “I promise to honour myself and my body. If something doesn’t feel right, I will stop. I am not be embarrassed or ashamed of my body or it’s experience. I honour my body and my experience. I communicate my experience with my partner openly so that (s)he/they can support me. I use my voice with clarity. I honour myself and my body.”
Place a drop of frankincense in a glass of water, and seal your vow by drinking this oil of truth.
Complete a cleansing ritual as described here should it serve you. Being present with and touching your own body can be a very powerful exercise.
- Releases stress, pain, sadness and fear
- Promotes vitality and enthusiasm
- Increases focus
- Cleanses the spiritual body, increasing alignment and intuitive awareness
Apply peppermint mixed with a carrier oil to your heart to the base of your skull, and massage it into your temples while breathing deeply.
For those who love getting revved up: this one is for you: I invite you to move your body! Turn on music that gets you feeling hot.
Diffuse ylang ylang on its own, or a blend of ylang ylang, clary sage and wild orange.
- Promotes emotional openness and harmony
- Increases physical sensuality
- Encourages unprompted interactions which can be helpful if one is feeling in a sexual slump
- Invigorates the senses
- Clears and opens the throat, chest and lungs
- Relaxes the mind
Add essential oils to carrier/massage oil or unscented moisturizer and start caressing, pampering and nurturing your body.
- Recipe suggestion: 1 part sandalwood, 1 part black spruce, 1 part lavender, diluted with carrier oil/massage oil/moisturizer to your taste.
- Opens up the energy systems of the body
- Reduces feelings of anxiety, depression, stress and tension
- Detoxifies the body and mind
- Promotes focus and clarity
- Aids in overcoming self doubt, limiting beliefs and stagnant energy
- Uplifts the heart
- Invites play and joy
- Stimulates desire while decreasing inhibitions
- Grounding and stabilizing
- Assists in connecting spirit and body with the earth
- Elevates and enriches mood
- Supports associations of love, care and devotion
You may choose to have a shower together. If so, use aromatherapy soap (can be found here) and cleanse each other’s bodies, being present with them in the moment. For a bath, I suggest adding essential oils to a carrier oil and massaging each other’s bodies with it before stepping in. You can use any of the single oils or blends that we have already talked about, and another one is included below.
- Recipe suggestion: 1 part bergamot, 1 part lemon, 1 part patchouli, .5 part rose, diluted with carrier oil to your taste.
At this point, I trust that you will be on a role. Remember that working with essential oils is supposed to be fun! It is a way to play and experience new things, and they absolutely bring extra spice to sensuality.
Some Notes to End With
I have tried to keep the blends fairly neutral (i.e. not overly floral, not overly earthy, but somewhere in the middle). This being said, Geranium and Jasmine specifically are two more essential oils that I would recommend to serve you and your partner in sensual play.
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